Sapphic Sydney

A problem I, myself haven't encountered with a girlfriend, but some of my lesbian friends have. Whether or not lesbian couples should hold hands in public. I know what SHOLUD happen. We should be allowed to show pride in what we are in whatever we do, but that's not the case. What are your experiences? What do you think?

I think it's fine. I understnad why some people wouldn't want to though, i guess there will be other people who stare and stuff. If it's a really hot day then i think not holding hands is ok cause of the body heat and swaeting, unless you're somewhere with air conditioning

Def is Okay.. If people stare THEY are the ones that have an issue! In my experience I have been with woman who have not wanted to around kids in case the kids then ask questions that put the parents in an "awkward situation" but I think it's more important to around kids so that they cna be eductaed from a young age and know that its okay for two woman or two men to be together.

My girl and i often feel quite uncomfortable holding hands in our local area but feel much more comfortable in Newtown and the city areas. Locally i dont think people are used to seeing two women or two men holding hands very often at all. I have to admit that i do get very excited when i see hand-holding by same-sex couples in "The Sutherland Shire", I almost want to run up to them and give them a high 5. I myself though am kind of at the point of "who cares". I think, I love my partner and I think she's wonderful and if i was with a guy it would not be a prob, so why not. I think she struggles with it more than I do and I can almost feel her not wanting to hold my hand at times (It's like consistently outing yourself to strangers). That said she gets double thumbs up for trying.

I very much agree with Apriljoy. LET"S NOT HIDE THIS FROM KIDS. Children know love, they see it and feel it. Holding hands may raise questions but so what. I mean it does very much depend on the environment and whose kids they are. I would rather children learn about love and connection and trust and respect than learn about shame and that holding hands is ok for some but not others.

Well, I do agree with above.  But i haven't encountered with a girlfriend either,since came here, I dont know it`s  weird from other people`s view that two women hold hands in public.  some of my experience in China, girls always hold hands with each other and people usually regard it as "friendship".  it is not easy to figure out who is lesbian or not.

i loved holding hands with my ex, at 1st coz i was just coming out we only did it in "gay friendly areas" then before the end of our relationship i felt comprtable enough to hold her hand everywhere, unless we considered it an unsafe area.there is someting so special about holding your girls hand in public, feeling proud to be by her side. sure we got some not sofriendly looks but my ex did her best to keep me from noticing.and in the end looks or even comments cant hurt us if we dont let it. my suggestion is to just be your self and do what makes you and your partner comfortable.as for the other topic brought up kids should most definatly not be kept in the dark about such things, how are they to come to there own opinon of love if not exposed to all love and different types of relationships.hey deserve to know truth and kept ignorant of what out there.yes it is a parents right to educate ther kids as they see fit when they see fit but they cant  keep them from seeing everthing, if say your at a friends house and they have asked u not to be so open around there kids then 1st of all they may not be our friends but if they are its maybe best to respect there wishes. but for most situations and scenarios just be your self.

Well said Chels