Sapphic Sydney

Hey girls,

I have been with my GF for 3 months now, this is my first relationship and it is going good, I am happy

Although my GF has been noticing that it is killing me that I haven't told my parents about her that we r more than friends and she reckons that is why I keep putting walls between me and her coz of that reason.

I come from Muslim and middle eastern background, so I was taught that being gay doesn't exist and not talked about where I was born when it does happen there.

I told my sisters a week after my GF and I hooked up, I got the response that I was aspecting "You are confused, I don't support your choice but you are my sister and I will always love you".

My youngest sister who is 18, she doesn't ask about it as she is religious, my middle sister who is 21 she asks questions every now and then so I think she might come around. Although the fact her best friend is also my best friend so our best friend might have talked to my sister about it for it not keep us distant as my sister and I were so close. Also our best friend met my GF and they get on so well, our best friend parents also know about Cath and they got my support which is good coz her parents are close to my parents.

I have been distant from my family but also before my GF, pretty much the start of the year I was as I just wanted to come out to them, so I did on July, I came out as bi, they took it better than what I expected but they told me that "We will always love you, as long as you are happy, we will be happy but don't make a choice now, forget about sex and dating, focus on your life right now.".

My parents have said they want to meet her a few times before but I keep putting it off or making excuses coz I am so scared on how they will take it even though I think they might know something is going on coz I am a different person now, never home and always out. I think my sisters might have told them even though I asked them not to.

My GF and I were thinking to introduce her as a friend only but I know that when they do meet her they will pick up that we are together coz the chemistry between us is so strong, so many people picked it up.

I am so scared for my parents to meet her coz I am afriad I have to make a choice between my family and GF or break my family apart. I am not sure what would happen, I don't think I will ever be ready for my parents to meet her, so I was thinking next time they bring it up for them to meet her to tell them okay let's do it, part of me just want it over and done with but the other part doesn't want to.

Sorry for making this too long, I am just so scared.

wow, yeah its tough aye! i understand where ur coming from tho, ur parents sound somewhat understanding as they have asked u a few times to meet her. I think its totally up to u! follow ur heart! if u think its too soon then u can leave it for another couple of months then introduce ur gf to ur parents. I'm pretty sure everything will turn out just fine for u

 (Hey girls,

I have been with my GF for 3 months now, this is my first relationship and it is going good, I am happy)

hi dear,

i would not gamble with any aspect of life that i am happy with.try to convince yourself that u haven't made any choices and u have an entire life time to do so. present the same cool pic

to everyone.this will help peace. meanwhile follow ur heart to the fullest each moment .enjoy safely on a nonturbulent platform. dont waste life hoping to be understood by family.be practical and respectful with family.then they think u r happy and stop worring for u.

cheers  (all glory to allrahim )

It sounds like your parents are interested in meeting her and would be supportive of your relationship. I understand it  might be difficult for you  because it sounds like they would prefer you to be in a relationship with a male, but I'm sure they would rather that you be honest with them instead of trying to hide something that they may find out about later.

At least that way you can feel free to be youself around your family and not have to worry about not being honest with them. If you are with someone who makes you happy you should be able to express it.

Thank you girls.

sexylittleladybug, I totally agree, I don't lie though, when I am going to sleep over her house thats what I tell them I am going but they must be blind if they don't suspect anything. I think my parents do especially my mum, she knows something is up.

I am very scared, my parents may not accept it but they have to come around to it even though they will never be happy about it....I just hope it won't break us apart, that is all. I also think the longer I wait for me to introduce her to my parents, the more damage it will cause coz they would be like "u lied to us etc etc." Even though there was no lies, just white lies.

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